There have been many times I have worked to prove and achieve, instead out of my love for the Lord. Busyness does not equate to fruitfulness or godliness. The lifestyle of busyness leads to unwarranted stress, anxiety and an identity that is wrapped in what you do, not who you belong to.
Blown it lately?
Haven’t we all? Somewhere, somehow, some way, we mess up. Reguarly. Despite our best intentions.
It’s tempting to think top leaders become great at what they do because they make very few mistakes.
As a leader, your role can be simply to create the safe space for people to air their frustrations and process their problems. Through mindful presence, you become the container in which they have space to process the issue, without you stepping in to solve, fix, manipulate, or control the situation. Presence in itself can help resolve the issue. This kind of presence not only solves the problem but also creates greater connection and engagement.
When we look at leadership pipeline and competency-based learning, what we’re trying to do is help someone move up the pipeline and understand different concepts. As they grow, mature, and develop, they will come around and understand different competencies deeper and deeper still.
Maybe you’ve seen it happen. A group of church leaders are striving to make an “official” decision, but the discussions move beyond the official discussion to the parking lot (or the hallways, or the local café, or the telephone). Here’s why those parking lot meetings are seldom good:
The discussions are seldom designed to build up others. If the goal were to help others, the others would be more included in the conversations.
They are, by nature, private or secret meetings. There are times when private meetings are necessary, but the nature of “parking lot” meetings usually reveals less than godly motives among the participants.