Help him balance family and church responsibilities. Many of us have seen too many Christian homes fail because of imbalance in these areas, and most pastors have few role models to help them address these issues. Be sensitive to this struggle for your pastor – he doesn’t want to let down his family or his church.
When you get an overtly critical or hurtful email, don’t do anything for 24 hours except pray. It may be difficult, but at all costs resist acting on your emotion. Resist responding defensively. And above all, do not be the one who escalates the situation.
Evaluate all meetings. Some churches have committee meetings, business meetings, and program meetings because that’s the way they’ve always done it. Evaluate all those meetings ruthlessly. Would the church fall apart if you eliminated a few? Do you really need a monthly business meeting?
The modern workplace is awash in meetings, many of which are terrible. As a result, people mostly hate going to meetings. The problem is this: The whole point of meetings is to have discussions that you can’t have any other way. And yet most meetings are devoid of real debate.
To improve the meetings you run, and save the meetings you’re invited to, focus on making the discussion more robust.
Leadership can be a very lonely place. I hear from many pastors, and especially lead pastors, that they feel alone at the top. It’s sometimes way too easy to for us to go at it alone without the messiness of real relationships, so we push people away. Obviously, I see the tendency of others to push us away, but I wonder how many pastors allow it to happen all to easily. By pushing others away or allowing them to push us away, we suffer from loneliness among many other things.