The Bible calls us to be humble (James 4:10, 1 Peter 3:8). Nobody I know strives to be arrogant, but some believers are actually prideful in their humility. Here are some questions to determine if that’s the case in your life.
Do you ever talk about your humility? I don’t need to explain this one. If you talk much about striving to be humble, you probably aren’t that humble.
Do you “lovingly” point out the ego of others? Folks who constantly see arrogance in others are often themselves quite arrogant.
Your church is growing, especially with young families. And with these young families come more kids in your nursery and preschool rooms during worship services. Where do you find additional volunteers to care for these children?
Your church is launching a new campus with limited downtown parking. You have a strong parking team leader at your current campus, but the service times at both campuses overlap. How do you find someone so both campuses have equipped parking team leaders?
In my mind, whenever I read something written for “young pastors” I still think they’re talking to me but life keeps me giving me reminders that I’m older than I realize. (My latest reminder was hearing Seinfeld aired its final episode 20 years ago.)
So, I’m not young but God willing, I have some years left to serve the Lord. Though I pray for visible fruit in this day, I increasingly find myself asking God for the grace to finish well. My motivations are partly based on stories I hear of pastors who do not end well. One story is too many. Maybe it’s our current multimedia age, but I feel like I hear about these things in growing frequency.
How did you like to be treated when you weren’t the leader?
Remember that (remembering is a discipline), and then decide to treat people accordingly. This act of remembering can be a powerful motivator.
Nothing is quite as convicting as to have other people treat you as poorly as you treat them. Remember that.
Feedback happens frequently because of two deeply held values: (1) Always be improving and (2) Create a culture of encouragement.
Feedback is one of the most vital tools we can use to improve as leaders. We see it in the Bible in Exodus 18, when Jethro, Moses’ father-in-law, gives Moses some feedback after watching a busy day of ministry. Moses listened to the feedback that might have saved not only his ministry, but also his marriage!